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“Just Relax”

The ultimate relaxation would be an apology. I would love to sit down and write out an hour long lecture to the people I’m frustrated with or who I feel don’t see my point of view and just really give it to them. Intellectually. Up the ass.

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Active Trust vs. Passive Trust

Innately, we trust people emotionally because of our instincts. The way they treat us, make us feel, open themselves up, etc. We can see distinctly the way in which we can trust people by the way they act – whether we’re consciously making these distinctions or not.

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What I Learned From Dating Women Who Have Been Raped

And, you know, we always act like traumatized people are “broken” or something somehow, but my body knew exactly what it was doing. It did exactly the right thing.

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Actions Speak Louder Than Intentions

Everyone is familiar with the phrase “actions speak louder than words”. I believe in this whole heartedly, and while I still believe that honesty is important, I don’t think that being honest about what you’re doing is an excuse to do it. And that’s where a grey area comes in. A lot of people use […]

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The Empathy Loop (and 5 ways to break it)

As an empath, I absorb peoples moods like a sponge. Anywhere I go, the energy of the people or the place affects me. I’ve learned along the way to be able to hold my own – especially if I’m feeling good, but I’ve always felt a little too aware of how others are feeling. Sometimes, […]

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Mental health is not a priority at this University

Dear Western University, I have been on the Dean’s Honor List, worked tirelessly on my faculty council and volunteered countless hours to the Orientation program, yet I am known to certain members of the administration as the girl who was in the psych ward. My journey accessing Western’s mental health resources (or lack thereof) began […]

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Finding My Way Home

For me, home is predictable. Home is where things have a place, and I know where that place is. Home is being able to sit at a desk and write instead of cramped up on a bed, or being able to use all of the ingredients in my kitchen and not feel guilty for taking 2 days to clean the dishes. Home is where I can figure out my internal chaos without having the external contributing to it.

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Bad Habits

I’m trying to unravel these things. Trying to build a better model. Attempting to instead of always understand why I feel I need them, to just understand that I can’t keep doing them. That knowledge isn’t always the key to moving forward, and that I don’t have to always disassemble the bad to build up the good.

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Fixing Fight or Flight

We’re all deserving of a break, especially from the expectations of our minds. You don’t need to fight or flight from taking a step back and a deep breath in.

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The Positive Side of Social Media

Losing sight of what exactly is being shared is easy. To conglomerate all of the photos, tweets, and status updates that put the things to congratulate in a box with the Victoria’s Secret ads and consumerism seems like it makes sense. But our individual experiences are not consumerism.

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