Long time no chat, we know. We’re sorry for the impromptu hiatus! It’s been a hectic couple of weeks. We’ve moved across the country and have been trying to get our shit together in a larger way that usual. But don’t worry, we’re here to let you in on what’s been going on and what will be going on…
“We don’t like going to the dentist.. We don’t like doing to the doctor… We just wanna stay moving forward at whatever cost. But if you hear something in the car moving and not sounding quite right, then you should take it in! Because you’re right! you’re right to hear that something is not quite right… And if taking it in aka talking to that person about the relationship means that its gonna cost you 5000$ and your van is dead thats better than you driving this really horrible van thats gonna kill ya. So if you’re in a relationship and you’re hearing these noises take it in… Sometimes its a very fixable thing!”
“I feel like there’s this idea that we need to, as individuals, have all the skill sets and do all of the things and be these multitasking brilliant people who can do all of the stuff by ourselves…. and that’s just a lot of pressure to put on yourself. thats unrealistic. you’re just never going to do everything as good as when you can just focus on what they love. People should be able to focus on what they love, really delve into that, and share it with people instead of having to be autonomous.”
“We know that sometimes fear comes from ourselves and sort of egging on our anxieties but I think it another part of where fear comes from is from societal pressure about what we are supposed to be doing and like your obligation as a person, as an artist, as a business person. When you decide to delve into this creative world there is a process to it.. a definite process and people are always going to be a part of that, watching that. fear comes from society basically saying this is the way you should be doing and creativity is saying fuck, no, thats now how I’m doing it and those things contradict themselves every time you try to work them together.”
*NEW PODCAST* In this episode Teagan and Forest deal with the repercussions and stigma brought on with the #metoo hashtag, our own experiences and advice around these topics, and how we hope to change and improve how we cope societally with these things.
What do you think it means to be kind to yourself? How does this compare to how we are kind to others?
Being kind to yourself is recognizing (if you can) what you need, and giving that to yourself. That may mean a night alone watching a TV show, taking an hour of the day to go to the gym or read a book, maybe buying yourself a latte. Just doing things that you think will make you feel better. I think being kind to others is recognizing everyone is a person and has feelings and thoughts, and giving them space to be themselves without judgment.
What is the hardest emotion for you? Why?
Anger is the hardest emotion. I have been raised to believe that it’s wrong to lose my temper and that I should suppress anger. Happiness and sadness are easy for me to express and experience. However, anger is something that is somewhat more difficult to grasp and deal with.
I think people in general have a hard time understanding my choices. We’re all so driven to save money for when we get old, that we miss out on our young lives and arrive at year 80 full of regret. I’m happy that I’ve decided to live in the moment, because I can choose to change my life and do different things whenever I want to. In a sense, it’s like time travel. When I’m too old to do any of this, I won’t be able to change the past. In essence, it just doesn’t click with people. Questions like, “What will you do when you’re older? When will you start to save money? Do you think you’ll eventually decide to live a normal life? What about a career?” are the type that I receive on a daily basis. And the people who ask me those questions should be ashamed of themselves. Snap out of it, the definition of an accomplished life is solely my decision. I’d rather have a sea of memories than a business card which gives my existence a certain status.