“We don’t like going to the dentist.. We don’t like doing to the doctor… We just wanna stay moving forward at whatever cost. But if you hear something in the car moving and not sounding quite right, then you should take it in! Because you’re right! you’re right to hear that something is not quite right… And if taking it in aka talking to that person about the relationship means that its gonna cost you 5000$ and your van is dead thats better than you driving this really horrible van thats gonna kill ya. So if you’re in a relationship and you’re hearing these noises take it in… Sometimes its a very fixable thing!”
“We know that sometimes fear comes from ourselves and sort of egging on our anxieties but I think it another part of where fear comes from is from societal pressure about what we are supposed to be doing and like your obligation as a person, as an artist, as a business person. When you decide to delve into this creative world there is a process to it.. a definite process and people are always going to be a part of that, watching that. fear comes from society basically saying this is the way you should be doing and creativity is saying fuck, no, thats now how I’m doing it and those things contradict themselves every time you try to work them together.”
Listen to us talk about winter, SAD, and how we feel about the cold and our advice to beat these seasonal feels. We’re recording in Wilder this time round and we’ll be back with a fresh episode Jan 26th!
“I was biased about winter, I wanted to change it so much… I think not trying to change it all the time made it easier.”
“You have the power to make yourself feel warm and comfortable… Winter is about being kind to myself and not always having to live up to these weird expectations of myself”
I was always in such a rooted, permanent state of anxiety that eventually when the stress bottled up to be too much my fight or flight would kick in full force. I didn’t have bad days. I had explosive ones. I was scared to be happy and comfortable.
What do you think it means to be kind to yourself? How does this compare to how we are kind to others?
Being kind to yourself is recognizing (if you can) what you need, and giving that to yourself. That may mean a night alone watching a TV show, taking an hour of the day to go to the gym or read a book, maybe buying yourself a latte. Just doing things that you think will make you feel better. I think being kind to others is recognizing everyone is a person and has feelings and thoughts, and giving them space to be themselves without judgment.
How has your art brought about an understand of yourself/your world?
I think I interpret my life through writing. Though I don’t journal, I write every day. I work out dreams and troubles as well as anxieties through my writing, and my characters enable me to see different perspectives on a particular difficulty. Some degree of empathy is necessary to breathe life into characters that are dissimilar from oneself. This helps me as I move through the world, and meet people different than myself. I try to learn from everyone — from everything, and incorporate new understandings into my writing.
I think people in general have a hard time understanding my choices. We’re all so driven to save money for when we get old, that we miss out on our young lives and arrive at year 80 full of regret. I’m happy that I’ve decided to live in the moment, because I can choose to change my life and do different things whenever I want to. In a sense, it’s like time travel. When I’m too old to do any of this, I won’t be able to change the past. In essence, it just doesn’t click with people. Questions like, “What will you do when you’re older? When will you start to save money? Do you think you’ll eventually decide to live a normal life? What about a career?” are the type that I receive on a daily basis. And the people who ask me those questions should be ashamed of themselves. Snap out of it, the definition of an accomplished life is solely my decision. I’d rather have a sea of memories than a business card which gives my existence a certain status.