I’ve always struggled to be my best. I think we all do. We’ve been told to push ourselves past limits and be surprised at all we can be and do. This isn’t untrue – I have pushed myself, and been pleasantly surprised at the results. There’s an ever growing definition in each of us of […]Read more
For me, home is predictable. Home is where things have a place, and I know where that place is. Home is being able to sit at a desk and write instead of cramped up on a bed, or being able to use all of the ingredients in my kitchen and not feel guilty for taking 2 days to clean the dishes. Home is where I can figure out my internal chaos without having the external contributing to it.Read more
I’m trying to unravel these things. Trying to build a better model. Attempting to instead of always understand why I feel I need them, to just understand that I can’t keep doing them. That knowledge isn’t always the key to moving forward, and that I don’t have to always disassemble the bad to build up the good.Read more
We’re all deserving of a break, especially from the expectations of our minds. You don’t need to fight or flight from taking a step back and a deep breath in.Read more
We’re not all so easily persuaded by the idea of vitamins and eating a rainbow diet though (gummy bear vitamins have that covered, right?), so if you have eat one thing that grows in the ground to beat the buzz we have the answer: beets.Read more
9.Give yourself a voice
Giving yourself the power to voice how you are feeling takes away power from the things inside of you that are telling you you’re scared, anxious, worried. I always tell my coworkers and partner when I’m having a tough day. Not only does it make me feel better to not internalize everything, but it helps me to try and change how I am feeling, be aware of how others are affected, and also let the people in my life know that it’s not them.
Losing sight of what exactly is being shared is easy. To conglomerate all of the photos, tweets, and status updates that put the things to congratulate in a box with the Victoria’s Secret ads and consumerism seems like it makes sense. But our individual experiences are not consumerism.Read more
The danger of introspection is often not the act of looking into yourself, but what is done with what is found. There are times we “remember” to feel guilty, or sad, or angry. That in trying to find an explanation, purpose, or motivation we instead find excuses and false reasoning. Introspection is about understanding, not remembering. It is about learning, not inflicting.Read more
If you let the idea that you should already achieving your dreams colour your choices, then you render everything between when you “should” have and now obsolete. All of the experiences, goals, lessons, and memories don’t account for anything if you don’t believe that in some way they have helped you. That you have not learned anything worthy, that this has been time wasted, and the future holds only more time to waste.
This version of you is still capable. This version of you deserves to have the chance to reach those goals – whether 25, 35, or 65.Read more
Many of my friends would label me as a perfectionist. However, few of them realize that such a trait stems directly from my anxiety disorder. With a constant feeling of impending doom, I focus my remaining energy on trying to maintain control of my own life and the current surroundings. This causes me to attempt to control my day to day interactions to ensure I can predict the outcome. Through excessive self-criticism and planning every act down to a tee, I push away the never ending “what-if” scenarios that reside in my brain.Read more