Disclaimer: Not all my ex’s were douchebags, but some definitely were and this is what I’ve learned from it
1. You need to experience things and relationships for yourself.
Your friends advice, dating columns and movies will not help you grow as a person, you need to go out there and date the wrong person and find out what you didn’t like about them, about yourself, about the whole thing. You have to know what doesn’t work to get something that works.
2. Don’t let anyone treat you like shit.
It feels shitty to be picked up at ten when they were supposed to be there at 7. And you feel like a huge loser trying to keep yourself busy and waiting for a text. If they can’t make you a priority, then don’t make them one of yours. If they want to see you, they better come see you.
3. End it when you need to end it.
Its hard and feels terrible, but you need to break it off when you realize its not what you want. DON’T stay in something that doesn’t make you happy, don’t settle!!!! You’re too young to settle. Wait until your late thirties for that (or just don’t do it ever)
4. You’re young and stupid right now, and you are totally allowed to be.
Make mistakes, its okay; it won’t ruin your life forever, I promise.
5. Don’t take it personally.
Sometimes people are just generally shitty. Probably not forever, but sometimes they just honestly don’t think about people other then themselves. Don’t let it crush you if they blow you off or say something harsh.
6. Try not to look back at relationships with regret.
Make a joke of it, understand it happened, and there’s nothing you can do about it now. (This goes back to being young and stupid)
7. Just because they buy you something doesn’t mean you owe them anything.
You don’t buy someone a present because you want one back. Buying someone dinner doesn’t mean you owe them a kiss or a fuck.
8. Don’t ditch your best friends for a boyfriend.
Your bffs are way more important.
9. Do something fun!!!
Dates are like instantly 923849283 times more fun when you’re getting surfing lessons instead of going out for coffee at starbucks.
10. Tinder is not the solution.
You are way way way too young to be looking online for a partner!!! Go out to a bar, meet people at school, strike up conversation in coffee shops and with the hottie selling you shoes. It works!!!
Written by Hannah Brown